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I went to midweek Lent service last night. Us women in the choir had a very pretty song to sing. I mentioned before that this year’s Lenten service theme is prayer, something I struggle with. The Pastor’s sermon was very true to me. He told a sweet story about how he visits the nursing homes with dimensia patients and that he wonders if it’s worth it. He wondered if they even know he was there two minutes after he leaves, but he is always reminded at the end of the service when he says “Our Father, Who art in Heaven…” All of them, he says, know the Lord’s prayer. They may not know how to get to page 4 in the hymnal to sing Amazing Grace, but they KNOW the Lord’s prayer. How amazing. He also said that it’s not how we’re praying or what we’re saying. It’s just that we’re praying. Amen to that.

I suddenly have a lot on my plate this month. I got an email on Tuesday about making a cake for this weekend. Then yesterday, I got another email about making cake pops for NEXT weekend. We are also getting DS2 baptized next weekend, and I will be making a cake for Bistro. DS1 is turning 3 this month, so I have a lot of caking and other planning for that. ALSO, I have to make 4 tutus and work on some branding things. Feeling a bit overwhelmed, but I picked up an extra babysitting job for this evening. I better start baking.

Oh by the way, we’re two weeks in to Lent, and I have not had a soda. I also haven’t had much craving for it. Hooray!

Sunday Funnies & A List

It’s Monday! Sometimes it gets too hectic to write. In fact, I have two half written posts sitting in my drafts, and I’m not sure I’ll finish and post either of them. Interesting how something mattered one day, and you go back to look at it a couple of days later and realize it didn’t matter in the least.

Yesterday, I took the whole family to Church. My Choir was singing, and I thought what the heck why not? It was a disaster, in a good way though. DS1 stole the hearts of everyone in the Sanctuary. He’ll be three at the end of March, and I can honestly say he did pretty good. He normally can’t make it to the Sermon, but he made it all the way to offering and communion without any major hiccups. Speaking of hiccups, DS1 was sitting on my lap during the Sermon (by the way I haven’t a clue what the Sermon was about), he was sitting nice and quietly, then randomly he says quite loudly “HICCUP!” and kicks the pew in front of him. Okaaaaay…. weirdo. He did it again, so I to him that he needs to be quiet. s the next one he whispered “HICCUP!” and still kicked the pew. So I reminded him and also told him not to kick the pews, that people are trying to listen to the Pastor. It didn’t go on much longer. Before the Sermon there’s a Children’s Message. This is the first time I let him go up there since his older pal MrJ was up there, I told him to go up and sit by him. There he went… the wrong way. After I redirected him off he goes, shuffling as slow as anything. The Pastor started the message without him, and I think he made it up there about half way through. I’m sure he was just delighted with all the attention. I also had to go up there and swoop him up when they were done because he was ready to stand at the pulpit with the Pastor. The choir sang after the sermon. DS1 came and stood by me and danced and clapped his hands with us. He proudly exclaimed “That was fun!” when we were done. Oh by the way DH was entertaining DS2 (8months) this whole time, who was getting restless at this point but doing quite well. After service was Bistro (or fellowship) and everyone fawned over DS1. I held DS2 at this point who lovingly grabbed the pitcher (PITCHER) of water and dumped it on me and the table and floor. Everyone had something nice to say ;) as I’m pretty sure I was going cross-eyed at this point. All in all though I say it was a success even though I was ready to go back to bed when we got home.

Oh, and DS1 has been potty training since New Years, and I just have to give him two thumbs up for TELLING us when he had to go TWICE. No accidents :D.

I just wrote about prayer last Wednesday, which happened to be the start of mid-week Lent services. Our Pastor likes to have a theme for mid-week services. This year’s theme is (drumroll) … prayer. How interesting. I think I will make an effort to go to every service, because I’m quite interested in what he has to say.

I made DH’s lunches for the week last night.
Salads and Cottage Cheese.
DH is on a mission to lose about 100lbs. He lost 30 last year, and wants to lose 50 this year. So lots of veggies it is. ;)

Here’s my to-do list for today. It may not get done though because I have MissJ today when I normally don’t on Mondays.
1. Sweep and Mop kitchen.
2. Vacuum
3. Wash Diapers
4. Find a home for some certain things behind the dining table. :p
5. Guest Bathroom
6. Empty ALL trashes.

Clean Heart

I don’t know why praying is hard for me, it just doesn’t come naturally. I feel awkward. But I often find songs that touch me, and I use them as my prayers. One of my favorite songs since I can remember, I use over and over again. Especially recently, last night.

Create in Me a Clean Heart
Oh, God
And renew a right spirit
Within me.
Create in me a clean heart
Oh, God
And renew a right spirit
Within me.

Cast me not away
from thy presence
Oh, Lord
And take not thy Holy Spirit
From me
Restore unto me
The joy of thy Salvation
And renew a right spirit
Within me

I felt so heavy last night. I took a shower, and sang, like someone had pressed the repeat button on me. I cried. I’m exhausted this morning.

Today is Ash Wednesday. I will be attending service. The senior choir sings today (that means me). We’re singing a Bach piece. Ash Wednesday marks the beginning of Lent. Do you give things up for Lent? One year I gave up soda, and then didn’t drink it again for years. I think, even though I really need it today, I will give up soda again. I’m also going to give up yelling at my DS1, it doesn’t work anyways, but happens so often, and I always regret it later. These two things, especially these two things together will be hard.

Create in Me a Clean Heart.

Linked up with Pour Your Heart Out.

Part 3

Wow, I didn’t mean to leave you hanging there. Both my kiddos got pretty sick. DS1 seemed more flu-like, DS2 got an ear infection. I also nanny for a baby girl and she has had a cold too. Sick kids! I also had a big cake pop order. They turned out really cute and the person who got their really loved them.

Anywho, so what happened? I have a couple of ideas.

First, I graduated. Suddenly I didn’t belong. There was no group to be apart of unless I wanted to join a bible study with people twice my age. The church I was with at the time sort of just cut me off. I told them if they needed any help to let me know. They never called. It was depressing. S, my mentor, also moved, so my contacts were dwindling as it was.

Second, and it’s interesting that I’m writing about this now, but one of my dear friends passed away on Valentine’s Day in 2005.  He was the drummer in our band, and I always considered him to be like a little brother. B was so fun, and talented. After the funeral I had an extremely hard time attending service because first his drum set sat there empty, and then someone else filled the spot. After it was filled I couldn’t bring myself to go anymore. I did end up getting married in that Church because I had no other Church home, but I haven’t been back since.

Third – this is pretty personal, but here goes. I had sex before I was married. It was with my now DH, so I can say I’ve only been with one man. However I still feel guilty (he doesn’t know this), and a bit tarnished. I think this is just something I need to forgive myself for.

 

So I’ve distanced myself. I do belong to a church of sorts now, although we’re not officially members. And as I said I don’t attend regularly, just when the choir sings. I really need to work on that.

Speaking of work, I’ve been working on being a help-meet. That is the purpose of all this. Lately I’ve been trying to not bicker about things. Letting my DH “be the boss”. Giving him final say. Yesterday I caught myself. I want to get a new dining room table because the one we have is quite small, so I found a very reasonable set on craigslist. I showed it to him, he kind of scrunched up his nose…it’s not my style either, but it’s incredibly functional and sturdy. We went back and forth a little…and then I remembered to let him be in charge. So I said OK, if you don’t want it, we won’t get it. Funny how not putting up a fight suddenly has him considering what I’m asking for.

 

What happened to my Faith part 2

“I feel like I’m living the 1930’s life, I work, you stay home and take care of the kids and clean the house.” Said DH before heading off to his second job yesterday (DH works part-time at a coffee shop as we try to shovel ourselves out from debt).
“Yeah,” I said.
“Two years ago you would have been mad that I said that.” (Two months ago I would have been too.)
“Maybe I was wrong.”

It’s become apparent that even in this short time he’s noticing a change. And there’s been a change in him too. When he got home last night I mentioned that I was having a hard time with DS1, I don’t know if it’s related but he tidied up a bit without me even asking in the slightest. It wasn’t a lot but it meant the world.

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This is a continuation of the question: Where did my faith go? You can read part one here, it’s mostly just background but still good to know about me.

DH and I met online when I was 13 (GASP!). We became fast friends, best friends even. I could talk to him for hours, about anything, about everything. It often got me in trouble, because I would stay up too late. Mom would ban me from the computer but I would sneak on anyways. I felt lonely on the days/weeks/even months that for some reason or another we didn’t talk. It was never romantic though, he had his girlfriends, I had my boyfriends. I always had this little crush on him though but being half a country away it just seemed silly. The summer before my senior year (he’s two years older), I told him about my little crush. He admitted he had feelings for me too. We decided to give it a chance. This by the way was the first time we had both been single at the same time. But yes we were living thousand of miles apart and I was still in high school. It wasn’t for another year that I met him, the summer after I graduated. Only I didn’t just meet him, I moved in him with him and his family. My Dad, an alcoholic kicked me out and I wasn’t speaking to my Mom. I bounced between friends for a couple of weeks until I turned 18 and then I took a chance, bought a one way ticket and moved in with him in August of 2003.  Here’s the quick version of the rest. I missed my family enormously, I moved back WITH him in May of 2004, he proposed in May of 2005, and we married in September of 2006. So it worked out people, I found my one online. But what does this have to do with my faith?

It has everything to do with it because at some point in our relationship (I don’t remember when exactly) DH told me two things. 1. That one of the main reason’s he fell for me is because I wasn’t scared of my Faith. I was proud to be a Christian, I told everyone. I would gladly give up a social event for a church thing, and often did. Most weeks you could find me at Church 3 (or more) days a week. 2. When DH was a regular Church attendee back in his home town, before I was in the picture, his pastor asked him to describe his perfect woman. DH’s description eerily resembled me, both physically and my personality.

So what happened to number 1? I don’t attend Church 3 days a week, not even regularly. I am usually there once a week for choir rehearsal but I generally only attend service if the choir is singing. I certainly don’t gab about my Christianity to the general population. I really only have one friend that goes to Church, and I don’t even talk about it with her. I’m timid about prayer (although I honestly always have been). And I don’t extend myself to be more involved or participate.

I have an idea of what happened…but I think I’ll save it for next time. You know I wasn’t really expecting this to get so lengthy.

Have you had a falling out with your faith like me?

Katie

Where did my faith go part 1

I grew up in a Lutheran Church, today I still attend a traditional Lutheran Church. It is not about being Lutheran, but I find a lot of comfort in that setting. It is what I know, and I like the tradition of it. When I was young I went to Sunday school like many other Children. When I was 9 my parents got a divorce and so attending Church regularly became a little sporadic. My Mom usually went, but if I were to go “with” my Dad it was more like he dropped me off and then I would have to wait to be picked up. I didn’t go to Church much after that until I was forced to in 7th grade for Confirmation.

When I was younger I believed that the divorce didn’t affect me, but I see now it did. I became a pretty angry and withdrawn girl. I was forced to get confirmed, I didn’t out rightly protest, but I sure did grumble and roll my eyes a lot. Do I really need to listen to these guys talk for 2 hours every Wednesday and then socialize with a predetermined group being separated from one of my closer friends? Not only every Wednesday but every Wednesday for 4 years?! At the beginning of confirmation my Mom also forced me to go to a youth event. That’s where I met S.

S was a game changer for me. She was the youth director (not pastor) and organizer of the Youth Leadership Team (YLT). S called out my pessimistic attitude straight up. It bothered me so much that she would call me pessimistic that I forced myself to smile around her and tried to participate just to prove her wrong. She’s the only one in my life that has called me Kate, and the only one that will ever be allowed to at that. S convinced me to get more involved, I was allowed to join the YLT in 7th grade rather than at the usual high school requirement. And I started serving the Lord through leadership.

With my fellow YLT I sang songs, put on skits, organized games and events for the younger children. In high school I worked with the music director and we started a band. We played before confirmation sessions (all ages) and our big thing was that we played for the midweek Lent services. I went along on retreats to be a chaperone and do YLT and band things. I went to camp every summer and was a counselor in training. I was going to be a counselor after I graduated.

I enjoyed reading the bible. I loved singing his praises. Church was home for me.

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This is getting lengthy, so I decided to split it in to two. :) Tune in next time.

In other news DH and I went to the pro hockey game last night. It was a blast and a great night out. After we got home and the boys were for sure asleep DH actually opened up to me a bit. I feel like my little bit of effort is starting to have some effect on him.

<3
Katie